A Bouquet of Love for All

A Long Way from a Tea Ceremony; Women Breadwinner Strategies for Pausing

I’ve often fantasized about taking a real break from my work, mid-afternoon. I would have a nice cup of tea and actually savor it, sans multi-tasking.

But I never did it.

Then I fell in love.

With Harney & Sons Pomegranate Oolong Tea.

Yesterday, I paused my work and actually savored a “cuppa” this fragrant, wonderful tea.

I have to admit that it felt like one of those brief stops at a filling station, where you just stop to fill up and then get going again.

It’s a long way from a relaxing tea ceremony, but it’s a step in the right direction.


Busting the Blahs

It’s a grey day.

It took me a couple of hours to realize why I was feeling so sluggish this morning. It’s a grey day.

This always happens to me after a string of sunny days.

I tend to attribute it to a character flaw, like laziness, until I finally make the connection: I’m letting the grey skies get to me.


What are your strategies when you find your energy lagging?

I’ve been trying to remember to b*r*e*a*t*h*e, a long, conscious, breath. And I make myself get up and either walk around or stretch.

Today, I was thinking about how easy it is to just plow through our work, whatever our energy level.

And yet (file this under “so obvious, it’s pathetic”) there are some simple things we can do that both change our state and take care of ourselves. And they don’t have to take more than a minute or two.

What are yours?

Somebody needs to do a study to find out why we don’t do them more often. 🙂


What Do You Long For?

I think most of us Women Breadwinners long for a connection to our true selves, a reunion with our souls.

What else do you long for?

We work so hard and we are so busy, that our deeper connection to who we really are often gets lost in the shuffle. And when we feel disconnected, it’s hard to know what we long for, or what’s calling us, on a deep level.

I have a lot of personal experience with this, having spent many years working in a big city, which wasn’t aligned with my own nature, and struggling with my work and my relationship. I felt so disconnected and disillusioned. Everything felt out of balance, but I didn’t know what to do about it.

So I searched. I wanted a practical way to tap into the wisdom of my true self, and something that didn’t take a lot of time, given the time pressures in my life.

I couldn’t find anything except self-help books and long spiritual programs that required more of a commitment than was possible for me at the time.

Many of the self-help materials had a lot of good ideas, but I really needed to be actively engaged in my own inner connection rather than reading about it.

In all that time, I never saw an interactive kit that engaged me effectively with my own inner guidance. So now I created one. This is a kit that is based on my own “tried and true” process, developed from my own daily practice over the last few years.

My “Inner Compass Daily Orienting Kit” is now available for purchase.

My intention for this product is to give you a methodology and a simple process that will help you orient to your inner compass daily. I wanted it to be powerful and effective, and also in a doable amount of time, for anyone who wanted to make this connection a priority in their life. And, I wanted it to have the sacred nature of this kind of a spiritual practice.

Here’s a bit about it; if it resonates for you, you can find more information on this page of this website.

The Inner Compass Daily Orienting Kit is designed to give you a simple 4-step process that will take you 20 – 25 minutes per day to tune into your own true north. It’s about nurturing a relationship with your true self that’s accessible and reliable. You tune into your source of guidance, clarity, energy and inspiration, and you navigate your life from there.

The Doors of Our Choosing






It’s mid-January, and most of us are probably back into the routines of our life and work.

I’m curious about the new doors that you would like to open this year.

What’s behind the doors, or over the threshold?

Are the doors already open?

If they are not, what will it take to open them?

Are We Exhausted?

Most of my friends, colleagues, and clients are arriving at year end in an exhausted state, like we are coming to the end of a long dark tunnel of pushing through to get things Done. (Of course, as one of my friends keeps reminding me, There Is No Done.)










Here’s a concept that knocked me over when I first saw it (and every time since). It’s from David Whyte’s book, Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity.

“You know that the antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest? The antidote to exhaustion is wholeheartedness.”


The End is Just the Beginning

As I “launch” this blog and this website, I could think of it as finally arriving at “The End.” But of course, the end is just another beginning. In this case, a really exciting one, for me.

This new focus for my life coaching business (this site, the blog, the Kits) began over a year ago, when some of my colleagues began to take early retirement.

As they retired, I began to ask myself: What is retirement, for me?

The “for me” part is really important, I think, especially for Woman Breadwinners, because there is no longer a traditional retirement model. There is a lot more creative choice, in both our work and in our “retirement.” And, of course, in our rhythm and timing.










I journaled about it, but just could not get my head around Retirement. Retiring from what? My first answer to that question was “retiring from doing things I really don’t want to do.” Good answer. That would probably be a great aspiration for all of us, right in this red hot moment!

In the midst of my struggle to answer the question about what retirement is, for me, my spiritual director suggested that maybe that wasn’t really the question.

She asked me: What still wants to be born through you?

So, now I’m asking you: What still wants to be born through you?

Pass it on.


Being a Pilgrim of Your Life

What is it to be a pilgrim, in our lives, in our world today?










From Phil Cousineu’s The Art of Pilgrimage: “In each of us dwells a wanderer, a gypsy, a pilgrim. What matters most on your journey is how deeply you see, how attentively you hear, how richly the encounters are felt in your heart and soul.”

I find this is easier when I am on holiday or vacation, or in some way removed from the pace and the demands, the schedules and To Do lists of everyday life.

I think the question for us Women Breadwinners is: how do we “be pilgrims” of our everyday lives?

I’m finding a hint of an answer in the quote. It’s about Presence. It’s not as much about what we are doing, or how much we are doing, but how we come to it, how we “show up” to our lives. With Presence.

Wayfinders Find Their Own Way

Joseph Campbell said something that I think speaks directly to Women Breadwinners.

“If you have a map, it’s probably somebody else’s map.” We need to find our own way through the unknown territory that is our lives.

Our Hero’s Journey

We are all on a hero’s journey.
















In the pressure and chaos of our everyday lives, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. Part of the bigger picture is that we are heroes, on a hero’s journey.

We are called to grow, to contribute, and to love. We face challenges and obstacles and gremlins of all sorts. We must persevere through unknown territory and darkness. And through it all we find ourselves and our connection to our spirits and souls.

It helps to remember, in the thick of our everyday pressures, that we are answering the call to love, to contribute, to grow.


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