Best Year Ever – Home

warm light snowI notice that in my rush to get somewhere else, I often miss the moment. I’ve shared that recognition before.

What I’ve also noticed is that I then miss the feeling of the moment, too.

Here is a simple moment where I caught myself and stopped to feel the welcoming, belonging, warm feeling of home, on a cold snowy night, when I really “took in” the light and the path.

How many nurturing, enveloping moments are waiting for me, just to take them in?

Best Year Ever – Brooding Light

brooding lightI’m playing with noticing my life differently this year, being present to the moments before they change. While they are being like they will never quite be, exactly, again.

Seems like there are a lot of those moments this winter.

In this one, it felt like the sky was brooding, in the power of the cold and the wind. Such a great moment.

Best Year Ever – Magical Moments

side view sunsetI’ve been paying attention to the moments.

One thing I have learned is that they are fleeting, especially as nature paints her ever emerging canvas.

Last night, as we were driving down our road towards home, I caught this sunset out of the corner of my eye, just there for a fleeting moment.

Best Year Ever – Wide Light

Wide lightOur driveway is still resembling a hockey rink, but today, I could feel that the sun has traveled noticeably toward the due East point, in its journey towards Spring Equinox.

The light is wider, fuller, more expansive.

What is the light teasing to awaken in you?

Best Year Ever

aster beauty

A recent birthday got me thinking. Birthdays have a tendency to do that, don’t they?

As I pondered the year ahead, I thought about what would make it the Best Year Ever.

We would all answer that differently. We tend to think of special landmarks in our lives, celebrations with families or friends, new adventures. For some of us, it’s doing things that we want to do from our dream list or life list. We look forward to the year in eager anticipation of doing new things, accomplishing new fulfilling goals.

And what if life shows up and has different plans for us? A dear friend of mine lost her husband, suddenly and unexpectedly, this year. On a much smaller scale, but still an interruption, I was consigned to a couch for two months of summer while my broken wrist and banged-up knees healed. And right after I was sprung from the couch, I got bronchitis, another little physical take-down.

What if the Best Year Ever is merely the exquisite quality of attention that I pay to my life? That what makes it the Best Year Ever is my degree of presence, rather than things that happened to me or things I did?

For one thing, I have complete choice over that. I get to choose how I come to my life.

This occurred to me when I was on an “ordinary” dog walk, with my pack, my husband and two dogs, a week or so ago. This is something we do a few times a day. Nothing extraordinary, right?

When I looked at these asters, everything else in the world disappeared for me. They drew me like a magnet, and I fell in love with them in that instant. And the thought that came into my mind was “Best Year Ever.”



The Appreciation Buffet

Pamplona Gate

“There are a multitude of ways you can cultivate a sense of gratitude.” The Art of Pilgrimage, page 205

This is the gate to the city of Pamplona, Spain.

In the memoirs I have been reading about the Camino, all pilgrims seem to mention the immense sense of gratitude that they feel upon reaching the gate of a city, or the outskirts of a city that is their destination for the day. This special threshold heralds the upcoming proximity of the albergue, or pilgrimage hostel, their shelter and respite for the night.

I spoke of Waking Up in my last blog post, and I realized that one of my favorite ways to Wake Up to my life is what I call the Appreciation Buffet.

I carve out 10 or 15 minutes in my day to sit down and reflect on all the things that immediately come to mind, in that moment, that I appreciate.

These are things that are really easy to appreciate, and the key for me is that I can easily feel (italics) a strong feeling of appreciation when I focus on them.

Things on my list: my dog Cinnamon making snow angels or how the light shining through my stained glass panels enlivens them.

I don’t just create a list. It doesn’t matter if there are only one or two things on the list. It matters that these are powerful things for me, and that they evoke that full, wonderful feeling of great and deep appreciation.

Visiting the Appreciation Buffet wakes me up the abundance that is my life.

Are You a Dipper or a Jumper?

More than one client has said to me: “Why can’t I spend just 15 minutes per day checking in with my inner guidance? I know it would make a big difference in my life. Why don’t I just do it?

I ask a different question: What would make it easy for you to do?

Changing habits reminds me of swimming.

Some people like to get into the water gradually, acclimating to the water a bit at a time, until they are all the way in. Those are “Dippers.”

Others prefer to jump in. I call them “Jumpers.”

Think about the times when you have been successful changing a habit or making a new one. Did you do it a little bit at a time, until it was fully implemented? Or, did you “just do it,” full blown, right out of the starting gate?

When it comes to changing or making habits, are you a Dipper or a Jumper?

Both of them work really effectively, and when I think of habits that I have changed or made in the past, I’ve actually used both strategies. But I think I am more naturally a Dipper.

Tip for Dippers: Commit to a very small amount every day, something that is possible, rather than what you think you “should” be doing. It doesn’t matter if you connect with your inner guidance for only 5 minutes per day. Consistency is what you are going for, and that is your measure of success. It will build it’s own momentum as you do it consistently, and then you can increase the time.

Tip for Jumpers: Ask yourself: “If I say ‘Yes’ to connecting with my inner guidance for 15 minutes a day, what am I saying ‘No’ to?” And then make sure that your new habit is important and meaningful enough to “trump” the thing that you are saying No to. It helps to be consciously aware of what we are saying No to, rather than just adding one more thing to our plates.

Whether you are a Dipper or a Jumper, I’m wishing you many blessings on your journey of implementing habits that will be nourishing, exciting, and meaningful for you.


A Bouquet of Love for All

What Do You Long For?

I think most of us Women Breadwinners long for a connection to our true selves, a reunion with our souls.

What else do you long for?

We work so hard and we are so busy, that our deeper connection to who we really are often gets lost in the shuffle. And when we feel disconnected, it’s hard to know what we long for, or what’s calling us, on a deep level.

I have a lot of personal experience with this, having spent many years working in a big city, which wasn’t aligned with my own nature, and struggling with my work and my relationship. I felt so disconnected and disillusioned. Everything felt out of balance, but I didn’t know what to do about it.

So I searched. I wanted a practical way to tap into the wisdom of my true self, and something that didn’t take a lot of time, given the time pressures in my life.

I couldn’t find anything except self-help books and long spiritual programs that required more of a commitment than was possible for me at the time.

Many of the self-help materials had a lot of good ideas, but I really needed to be actively engaged in my own inner connection rather than reading about it.

In all that time, I never saw an interactive kit that engaged me effectively with my own inner guidance. So now I created one. This is a kit that is based on my own “tried and true” process, developed from my own daily practice over the last few years.

My “Inner Compass Daily Orienting Kit” is now available for purchase.

My intention for this product is to give you a methodology and a simple process that will help you orient to your inner compass daily. I wanted it to be powerful and effective, and also in a doable amount of time, for anyone who wanted to make this connection a priority in their life. And, I wanted it to have the sacred nature of this kind of a spiritual practice.

Here’s a bit about it; if it resonates for you, you can find more information on this page of this website.

The Inner Compass Daily Orienting Kit is designed to give you a simple 4-step process that will take you 20 – 25 minutes per day to tune into your own true north. It’s about nurturing a relationship with your true self that’s accessible and reliable. You tune into your source of guidance, clarity, energy and inspiration, and you navigate your life from there.


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